I hate it when something's bouncing around in my brain and it won't form thought. But, instead of trying to make this conform to something I'm just going to write.
Why do female geeks feel the need to judge/compare/denigrate other female geeks "geekness"?
I've had it happen to me. I've had it happen to friends. Most recently E. Foley from Geek's Dream Girl got "graded" by a gal from The Walking Eye Podcast about a speed dating event she did.
Just to be clear, the speed dating event was for geeks...at GenCon. And the podcaster didn't just dismiss E out of hand. She went into detail and then a conversation ensued in which she picked another geek girl apart and the guys in the podcast were the defenders.
Honestly? Jen from The Walking Eye isn't the issue here. She's just one female geek I've heard do this. I listened to her speak and, while she's not my speed in the female geek department, I'd never tell someone else she wasn't "geeky enough".
Granted, I've had the thought about certain women out there. Women who are billed as geeks and may not be what I consider a geek. But when someone asked me flat out, I declined to comment.
Because, in my opinion, it's hard enough to live this life without me trashing other people.
Maybe it just comes down to the fact that women are naturally competitive with one another. Maybe it's insecurity. Maybe it's the inner cattiness/defensive bitch factor that seems to be part of our make up (some of us just control it better than others)
I don't see geek guys calling one another out for not being geek enough.
But maybe that's because female geeks tend to be more willing to admit they don't know something, or show more vulnerability, or...hell, I don't know.
See? I told you this wouldn't make sense. ;p